You know the old saying, "You have to love yourself first before you can begin to love others." In terms of your decision for weight loss, it should be for yourself and your health, and to look better to other people, yes. But you shouldn't be afraid of improving your own image on the pretense that if you gained it all back, the person you are with won't love you anymore. You've never been grotesquely fat or even obese, so even if you did gain weight while with someone, I doubt they would leave you. You even said yourself that attractiveness supercedes just physical. I wouldn't worry about blogs and such; they have very skewed perceptions of reality and don't apply to your personal life. Just worry about who you want to be and the right person will fall in love with you. If you need to worry that they'll leave you, they're not the person for you.
<3 I think you're a hot Mamacita, and so does my friend Sam. So come down to LI soon and I'll play matchmaker!
Oh, I also read that article you are referring to and I found this in the comments:
Chris Shugart wrote:
"Is she fat? You bet. Is she sexually attractive? Not anymore."
With all due respect, who the fuck are you to make that decision? I'm betting the fact that you're slim doesn't mean all the ladies find you sexually attractive, big guy.
So Katie, there are people out there that aren't as judgemental :)
Oh Pats, you're sweet. I'm not really actually concerned about it. It's more of the random thoughts that come and go. I know guys range and there are good ones and bad ones (and that particular author I'm thinking was love scorned in his fat days). Just that idea of rejection is a bit scary to me right now. I know it's about me and what I want to do and be, but it sucks to feel judged. Just my random thoughts...
You know the old saying, "You have to love yourself first before you can begin to love others." In terms of your decision for weight loss, it should be for yourself and your health, and to look better to other people, yes. But you shouldn't be afraid of improving your own image on the pretense that if you gained it all back, the person you are with won't love you anymore. You've never been grotesquely fat or even obese, so even if you did gain weight while with someone, I doubt they would leave you. You even said yourself that attractiveness supercedes just physical. I wouldn't worry about blogs and such; they have very skewed perceptions of reality and don't apply to your personal life. Just worry about who you want to be and the right person will fall in love with you. If you need to worry that they'll leave you, they're not the person for you.
ReplyDelete<3 I think you're a hot Mamacita, and so does my friend Sam. So come down to LI soon and I'll play matchmaker!
Oh, I also read that article you are referring to and I found this in the comments:
ReplyDeleteChris Shugart wrote:
"Is she fat? You bet. Is she sexually attractive? Not anymore."
With all due respect, who the fuck are you to make that decision? I'm betting the fact that you're slim doesn't mean all the ladies find you sexually attractive, big guy.
So Katie, there are people out there that aren't as judgemental :)
Oh Pats, you're sweet. I'm not really actually concerned about it. It's more of the random thoughts that come and go. I know guys range and there are good ones and bad ones (and that particular author I'm thinking was love scorned in his fat days). Just that idea of rejection is a bit scary to me right now. I know it's about me and what I want to do and be, but it sucks to feel judged. Just my random thoughts...
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